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April 22, 2012


What a wonderfully thoughtful post. It is so freeing to be happy with what you are doing. It sounds like you've had a great year and have lots to look forward to! You are so right about getting back in little by little, if you find yourself interested one day. I have such a hard time thinking of a career as an all or nothing thing. But right now I do not have time to work full time, plain and simple. I am so lucky to have the option!

I think you articulated this SO WELL. I am FIVE YEARS (!!!) into the SAHM gig and I still have trouble explaining why it is at once the best thing ever and also sometimes irrelevant-feeling. I LOVE being my own boss, I HATE not having the feedback and validation. I'm used to it now, but it can still be hard. And I didn't even like my old job!

Honestly, I think whatever you're doing, even if it's straight up SAHMing, you're not the kind of person who ISN'T going to impact loads of other people. It will just happen!

Thank you, thank you, thank you for writing this! I love the first part so much. I've been on both sides and you seemed to write how I feel perfectly, and more eloquently!

This is so perfectly written. I straddle the line between WAHM/WOHM/SAHM and I feel the constant pull between wanting A Goal And A Schedule and wanting to just BE with my girls, without a plan and a timeline. I LOVE that I get to experience both sides of it at the same time... but man, it can be HARD. Some days I want to be Important to just them and tell the rest of the world to take a hike, and other days, I want to not be irrelevant to the rest of the world and tell the girls to JUST LEAVE ME ALONE AND GO PLAY WITH YOUR TOYS! Sometimes things feel well-balanced and it all goes well. But other days... oh my. It's an adventure, for sure. Here's hoping you find your balance, one year in ;)

Oh A'Dell, this is so well said. As someone who wants at some point to maybe be a SAHM, but whose identity is VERY wrapped up in her work, I really appreciated reading your thoughts on this subject. Very thoughtful and thought provoking.

I love this post. I so get it. I also love that you wrote so eloquently the struggle of your heart and your head without it being a WOTHM/SAHM/WAHM debate. I go to work every day because I enjoy it, and that sometimes baffles people who are so entrenched in the SAHM world. I started my side business because it's my creative outlet; sometimes people don't get that and can't believe I have a full time job, a side job, a 3 and 1 yo. I don't do it because I have to, I do it because I want to. And at the end of the day, we're all in charge of our own lives and that's really all that matters. Proud of you!

This is such a great post! I can't tell you the number of times I nodded my head and said "yes, that, exactly that". That beginning transition is hard and now I find the balance thing equally hard. I'm glad you've found yours for now

Agreed! I feel like I am on vacation too. Except right now I actually am on vacation. But you know. Living the dream for real!!!!!!

Love this! You did the right thing to quit "cold turkey" even though it was difficult. I kept working part time for the first 6 months of my first-ever staying home (we are on the same schedule - I just started my SAHM a year ago too!), and the part-time thing was really difficult with a newborn. It probably would have messed with my head less to just quit cold turkey and then go back later but whatever. It is what it is. And I LOVE the not scheduling thing! I totally won't plan more than 1 thing per day, and I won't plan anything more than 3-4 days a week. It is a rebellion against the hyper-scheduling that had to happen when I was working full time and pregnant.

Definitely a mirror of my life and because of several difficulties, hardships and problems I asked myself if I can do this but because of my faith in him I know and can get through this.

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