Oh, you are all very wise about The Threes. I bought a book and I was really enjoying reading it and learning how to corral Three but then it disappeared. Literally, the book has vanished. I can only assume that Claire knew what it was about and destroyed it to protect herself.
Whenever the book turns up, we'll revisit that topic because I have things (so many things) to keep saying on that one.
Me = Fascinated!
You = We already talked about that, A'Dell
Sometimes (okay, OFTEN) Charlotte will do something that leaves me perplexed on how to respond or what to do and I kind of look at her waiting for inspiration to strike. Since I already have an older child, when inspiration about what to do is conspicuously absent, there is always this sense of "Aren't I supposed to know the answer to that? I have done this before."
Most of the time, I don't have a flipping clue. I either have a very poor memory or my children look the same but behave very differently. Charlotte does stuff ALL THE TIME that makes me think, "I just really do not think we had this problem with Claire," or, "I don't remember Claire doing this but it sure is cute." I probably DO have a spotty memory but it's likely more of an issue that children are different and they are little, individual people and they all do their very own things at their own pace and in accordance with thier personality, which all seems so "no shit" but truly, I am gobsmacked by this realization every damn day.
Kids are different. WOW. (I am like, the smartest person on the internet for coming up with that gem.)
For example, Charlotte makes raspberry sounds all the time. It is very cute, this constant "Thhhhhbbbbbttttt! Thhhhbt! TTTHHHHBBBBBBTTTTTTT!" I don't remember Claire ever doing that.
She also rolls over, in her sleep, while swaddled. Double swaddled. I really don't remember Claire doing this. Once she rolls over she's got a problem because she can't roll back so this elicits crying and then I have to stop whatever I'm doing and go rescue her. This would not be a big deal if she did not do it every twenty minutes, around the clock, FTLOG. With her arms pinned in that swaddle she's just a really sad, upside down, baby burrito of despair.
Here's my problem du jour: How to get her to sleep out of the swaddle so that when she does roll over she's fine on her tummy? I have tried the gradual weaning with one arm out and she just can't handle it. Arm flailing, in her face, hitting herself, yanking that paci out, not being able to get it back in her mouth....It is basically everything hilarious about babies and their lack of motor skills, except for the part about how there is no sleeping going on until I stick that arm back in her blanket. If I do that? Eyes shut, instantly. (It is a funny experiment at 2pm but not so much at 4am.)
This makes me wonder if she's simply not ready to give up the swaddle except she's rolling over so it's kind of a problem that needs solving and that makes me think that even if she's not ready, her motor skills demand that she be ready so that we do not end up with the baby suffocating because she can't use her arms to prop up. (Holy run-on sentence, Batman! but I am not going to edit it because it is Friday and I am lazy. LAZY WRITER!)
Also, she's going to be giving her up 2am feed next week but she doesn't know it yet. It's sort of Step One in sleep training and getting her to learn how to go back to sleep on her own and I seem to remember (vaguely?) that Claire ditched the swaddle by now. But maybe not. I CANNOT REMEMBER.
The worst part is that you are all going to want to leave me a variety of helpful comments about infant sleep training and swaddling and not swaddling and what you did in your house and it will all be so different and conflicting because babies are different (lesson of the day, folks!). This is going to be very kind and make for interesting reading and I will totally copy one of you, I am sure, but what I would really like is for some kind of baby expert to come visit my house and just tell me what the freak to do to get the highest chance of success at sleeping more than four hours HOLY CRAP I AM TIRED.
Here. Look at the baby.